Mending a Relationship

I am not proud because tonight I reacted when I shouldn't have.  My brother was responding to a text that left me upset and hurt.  Unfortunately, I responded with anger.  Things were starting to escalate. I called my brother and apologized for my response and explained why I was so hurt.  He also explained that it was a miscommunication and apologized for his response.  We ended our conversation with both of us understanding each other.  

So how does this relate to Kung Fu?   One of our requirements is mending a relationship.  I use to think that mending a relationship was fixing something broken but it should also be saving a relationship before it becomes that way.

We have been told to make sure we like the person in the mirror.  Tonight I can say I did not like that person.  It is hard to really look at your self and see what is there but I know that by doing this reflection, it allowed me to take quicker action.

Sometimes we need to make sure we are looking to fix things before they become issues.  It's taking that step back, taking a breath and asking why.  Why was I hurt?  Why did I respond the way I did?   Why is my cat stance linear? Why do I lift my shoulders on certain moves? Why, why why?  

By evaluating the why, we can find the root cause.  I am working on trying to change from fixing issues to stopping them from starting.  This year, I am not only looking at mending a relationship, I want to focus on making sure to improve the ones that I have.

See you on the virtual mats!